Monday, March 26, 2012

Kevin McCallister, You've Led Me Astray

I grew up watching Home Alone. It's every kids fantasy movie. You're home alone and get to turn your house into a giant obstacle course all the while wreaking havoc on two people trying to steal your presents. Steal my presents? I don't think so! One of my favorite parts of the movie is where he's told to go pack his suitcase and decides that everyone is a moron (so young, so perceptive) and declares "When I grow up and get married, I'm living alone!" And here I am at 27, living out my young Kevin McCallister dreams. I'm grown up, and living alone. And now there are adult decisions to consider.

Lately Boyfriend has made comments about living together. Most recently, ""You know babe if I lived with you I'd be doing laundry there ;)" Although I've lived with boyfriends before, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it this time. In a nutshell, I'm on the fence. Hence the need for all of your thoughts. Pretty please?!  'k thanks!

Yes: 
It would be nice for that someone-to-come-home-to vibe. I'd see him more often, we'd get more time together. Akk that lovey dovey jazz. We've been together almost a year and there are no issues in our relationship. I'm one of those "new age" girls. I need to live with you before I marry you. If you like to wear high heels when you do the dishes or have a creepy collection of toenail clippings, these are things I need to know. I mean he practically lives with me anyway. Half his wardrobe is at my house, and he sleeps over at least 5x a week. I also feel it's a good way to better acquaint yourself with someone. You learn more about them and can do things together, like make dinner. Plus the sex is readily available.

No:
I've been living bachelorette style for the past 2 years and am reluctant to let it go. I'm not a neat freak (unless it's about storing my shoes) but I like not having to clean up after anyone else. If there's a mess, it's mine. And I can get to it when I feel like it. If I don't want to do the dishes for 3 days, I don't have to. I can come home strip down to my unmentionables and... well, do whatever the fuck I want! The past 2 years have been the first time, in 10 years, that I've lived 100% on my own. And although I sometimes tweet about how having a roommate would be nice, I'm not sure. Essentially boyfriends are on a different level than roommates right?

It's not that I don't want to live with Boyfriend. I have considered it on my own.  And the idea makes me smile. We mesh together quite nicely and integrating into one another's lives has been as seamless as possible. However, it's only been 7 months so maybe this idea needs to sit on the bench a few more innings


I'm leaving this up to y'all. Whatcha think?





12 comments :

  1. Oh that's so tricky! I don't know what to tell you. Do you have to decide soon? When's your lease up?

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  2. Hmm, pros and cons on both sides are strong. You can always move it, it might be a lot harder to move him out. I'm kind of with you on the whole "like it on my own" point of view. I have been living on my own terms for over three years now and the thought of someone else in my space with their stuff gives me huge amounts of anxiety now. 
    My house is always clean, I know where everything is at, I don't have to share my space  and I like it that way. I don't know if I could live with someone again.... I'm turning quite selfish! 

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  3. You should only move in if you both want to. Not just if he wants to. It's only been 7 months, so there's no need to rush. A decision like this isn't one that has a set deadline, so just make sure he knows that you like the idea, but only want to do it when you're absolutely ready. Sit on those few innings. You've earned them.

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  4. I'm with the Beer guys, as per usual. Really if you want to on hold then it's a sign that you aren't ready just yet, and don't do it until you're ready. When you are you'll say yeah without having to think about this much, or have us make your decisions.

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  5. No need to decide soon. Lease isn't up until next year (month to month now) and I have no plans to move.

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  6. "I don't know if I could live with someone again..." That's EXACTLY where I'm at!

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  7. If you are writing a blog post, weighing the pros and cons, then you probably shouldn't.

    I know that I would need to be 100% stoked and excited about it.  While I complain about it sometimes, I really enjoy living by myself for many of the same reasons you said.

    That being said, my situation is more of just a lifestyle-type thing while yours is a relationship-type thing.

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    1. It's not that I don't want to. In all honestly I'd love to live with Boyfriend. I think part of it is that I'm so used to living alone. We discussed it briefly and each knows the other is interested. My plan was to keep things the way they are but I wanted to hear your thoughts.

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  8. Then I say wait it out... if he's not pressuring you, don't pressure yourself.  My favorite way to send my boy out is with a joking "get the fuck out" as I stand at the opened door. It just feels good to know I'm half serious and he has to leave. 

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  9. This is a difficult decision. (Mainly because it depends on how much you'll miss your masturbation time. I mean... your private time.) 

    Seriously though, I think there's no reason to rush. Although it may seem like it's not a huge transition from where you are right now, the last thing you want is to sabotage an 'issue-free' relationship with prematurely gettin' in each others business.

    I may not be the best person to ask, though, since I'm all "GTFO! THAT'S MY DISH SOAP!"*

    *I always thought "Dish Soap" was one word.

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  10. I adore these sort of posts, but I'm such a gushy romantic that without giving your situation any real thought, I would say to jump straight in.   

    However, I'm going to control myself.  

    I read all the feedback and I think that ABFTS guys have said it right. Probably best to wait if you're not 100% sure - but I would think it's equally important to tell your boyfriend that you  like the idea.  More than like if you can manage it - how about LOVE and ADORE the idea? lol... 
      
    Or you can tell him that I love and adore the idea - but I don't think it would have quite the same effect.

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  11. Nah, I agree with everyone else. You'll have your whole life to live with someone. If you're not 100% on board, why make the leap?

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