Friday, October 12, 2012

Whatever Happened to Etiquette?

Hello lovelies. It's finally Friday so we're going to keep this light short and sweet to the the point.

  • School is kicking my butt.
  • I ♥ fall but I'm not into this rainy drizzle we've got going on.
  • Also? What actually happened to fall? It went from 70 to 55 here. I like gradual progression Mama Nature. 
  • Coffee has been my saving grace this week month.

Now on to the point of today's ramblings...

Tomorrow boyfriend and I have a wedding to go to. It will be the 2nd in the past 2 weeks and the 3rd one this year. And I'm not sure if you guys knew this but, umm, weddings are a formal affair. That means there's some etiquette involved. At least in my opinion. And being a formal affair means that they require an RSVP.

RSVP is an abbreviation for the phrase "Répondez s'il vous plait," a French expression that translates as "Please reply."

Last night in discussing the upcoming nuptials boyfriend relayed a comment made to him by the bride's uncle. He said that he was going to go to his nephew's football game but show up to the reception after. Even better than that my friend J texts me yesterday and the following conversation takes place:

    J: "R u going to the church for jens wedding"
    Me: "Yea, why?"
    J: "I'm not"
    M: "Why?"
    J: "Bc I have to get my hair fixed"
    M: "Really? haha (maybe I should have said 'lol', since that's the appropriate term when you don't know    what to say)
    J: "Yea I'm dying my roots and getting a glaze"
    M: "Let me get this straight.... You're missing a 3pm wedding to get your hair done?"
    J: "Yea I'm going to the reception though"


Look, I'm not all up on a pedestal and 100% clear on etiquette for everything but there are just certain things that are really bad taste. And to RSVP yes to a wedding but not go to the actual ceremony certainly ranks high on that list. I mean, that's the whole point of a wedding. To see two people who want to spend the rest of their lives supporting and lifting one another up. And that's the part you're choosing to miss?

In these two instances both reasons for missing the ceremony are completely bogus. A college football game is more important than your niece's wedding? Getting your hair done is more important? Let's not even get into the part about how they've known about this wedding since mid-August. You pick the day of to do your hair?? It's not even my wedding and I'm annoyed.

So I have to ask you guys, what do you think? Is it ok to RSVP yes but only go to the reception; or is it tacky and you just shouldn't go at all?


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  1. I think that is pretty damn tacky. I mean, if you say you're going to go to a wedding, then GO TO THE DAMN WEDDING. I think if I ever get married, and someone only turns up to the reception, I'll haul them out on their ass. Hair is more important? I guess it depends on the wedding, but still. That's not very polite. That's...I don't think "faux pas" covers it.

  2. Just Keepin' It Real FolksOctober 12, 2012 at 12:10 PM

    Completely rude and tasteless. It seems they are only going for the free meal and party afterwards and not going for the real reason of the ceremony. I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't even bring a gift.

  3. I could feel the irritation reading this! 

  4. I think if you have a legitimate excuse to miss the ceremony, it's kosher. Football and getting your hurr did are not legitimate excuses. In fact, it's downright appalling.