Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Later is Better

Remember back when Jessica wrote this post about what she learned in her early twenties? All sound advice. Later in the year I'll be turning the ripe age of 29. Age ain't nothin' but a number to me. However, thirty is officially on the horizon and I am super excited.

My 20s haven't been as fun as they should have been. Things happened, bad choices were made, trouble occurred and I've been paying for it ever since - literally.

But 30. Thirty is clean, shiny and new and I'm ready to show it off to the world.

The twenties haven't come and gone without a few life lessons though, and today I'm sharing a few things I've learned in the past decade.

Love your thighs
Somewhere around 25 I had an epiphany. Or maybe I just stopped caring. I have thick thighs. Always have, always will. Instead of being concerned that they were too fat in my shorts I said fuck it and I just wear my shorts. Not the kind where my lady bits are chowing down, but just comfortable shorts. The same goes for my bathing suit. If they're jiggling a bit, I just don't care anymore.


 Not all trends are trendy
This is something I'm always mindful of. Thanks to my mother, I always remember one simple sentence: Just because it comes in your size doesn't mean you should wear it. Of course I can find a bubble skirt that fits me but I can't guarantee you won't get an eye full of cheek. Or I can wear a bustier top with a pair of high waisted shorts. I can promise it will look like hell.

Drink the Kool-Aid water 
I have seen many a drinking partner take after Humpty Dumpty halfway through the night because they couldn't pace. Strangely enough, my M.O. seems to be drinking on an empty stomach. I also don't advise this. You'll probably end up sleeping in a puddle... or on a bathroom floor.

Mom is usually right
I think there comes a point when we all realize this. I will admit that I had an inkling in my early 20s when I realized the prom dress she picked was SO MUCH better than the one I ended up getting. But I wasn't ready to concede. Now, Mom is always usually right.

Live alone
I've been out of my parents house since April '03 and it's been a glorious, scary, fun, bad time. I've lived with boyfriends, friends, and roommates from heaven and hell. Until this summer, I'd been living alone since 2009. It has many things. Killing a bottle of wine while I dance around in my underwear to classic 80s? Yup! Not doing the dishes for a whole week because I don't feel like it? You bet. Living alone is an amazing learning experience. And so much fun. Do it. If you're already shacked up with the S.O., kick him/her out for a weekend.

Check the expiration
We all know the saying about how people come into your life for a reason or a season, etc. Sure this can be true, but what I think is even more important is being able to know when a friendship it past its prime and be able to let it go. I have no problem walking away from someone who no longer benefits me or adds to my life. As bad as that sounds what I mean is that you need to know when to cut the leeches out of your life. If a friend is an emotional or financial leech, walk away. If they're 24/7 Debbie Downer... walk away. Why would you want to be surrounded with negativity?

I know this seems all über responsible and adult like but it's insane how much it matters. If you think about the big picture, 10 years is a long time. Say you set aside $20 from every check. Just put it away and leave it. In 10 years that's 10 grand. This is definitely something I still need to work on.

Buy the shoes
I think we can all agree here, right? You're going to need them eventually.


 Why so serious?
Don't you hate when someone can't take a joke? That's a HUGE pet peeve and relationship killer to me. I'm sarcastic, I joke, and I can find humor in almost every situation. Life is hard enough as it is without being driven 100% of the time. Be spontaneous. Take the trip, date that person, blow the budget. The point is to HAVE FUN!

What's something you've learned in the last 10 years?

On that note, today is my Friday! I'll be enjoying a little 4 day stay-cation with K. Fun things are planned so I'll see you all on Monday!


  1. Love this! I definitely did not think you were 29, so take that as a compliment (right?) I think body hang-ups are something that everyone needs to let go of. I know that I've learned to accept mine for the way it is, and I'm happy because of it. Great advice!

  2. Well you've navigated your 20's quite well. Mine were all kinds of messed up. The 30's have been pretty awesome though. I couldn't agree more with the living alone thing. I did that in my mid-20's and it was a great experience.

  3. This was a GREAT post! I'm 26 and I can see where I am in this timeline of yours.... I'm learning to accept my body and just not care. I've found that living alone is a great experience. I love the 20s and I'm excited to ride out the rest of them until bright, shiny, new 30. =]

    Kate from Clear the Way

  4. I agree, not all trends are trendy - it really depends on your style and body type!

    Sparkles and Shoes

  5. This post was great!

    *I love my thighs
    *I will fight with my mom about everything but eventually listen to her
    *You know im all about buying the shoes :)


  6. Awesome advice ;) Especially the budgeting. You know I'm big on that! We have been putting away our money for about four years, and it SERIOUSLY adds up. I can't wait for 30, maybe I'll start looking my age in my 30's...perhaps it may just make me look even younger, but oh well, haha.

  7. I'm still working on embracing the thighs thing, man. Someday. SOMEDAY.