January 17, 2018

Year in Preview

Recently I posted about committing to 2018 and not over-goaling myself. After reading Alyssa's post, In Defense of Resolutions, I took some inspired action and got to work on deciding how I wanted the next 12 months to look. 

Photo by Danka & Peter on Unsplash

I want to have a very focused and committed year. I'm going to let my Type A tendencies take the lead here because the only way these items will be accomplished is if I stay diligent and committed. 

To quote Alyssa {emphasis added}, because she put it so perfectly,
You know what goals are. They're things you will achieve or accomplish; they're changes that will occur. They are things you will do or will not do. They are measurable. Goals are things that tell you what you'll need to work toward on a frequent basis. Goals often have benchmarks along the way or other indicators that help you measure progress. Goals generally don't happen overnight, but rather as the culmination of dedicated, focused work. Goals are things you have to actually give a shit about, because you will have to convince yourself that you should work toward them on days when you don't give a shit about anything. Resolutions historically sound like things you want to do more/less of. Here's how I see resolutions: Actions I want to choose. Not quite measurable, but that's OK. Not everything has to check a box. It's a habit, a routine, something I want to change.

I'm not going to get overly specific with my plans for 2018 as I know what they are and what steps I need to take to reach them. Instead, here is the umbrella topic of my top three goals.

  • Improve financial fitness
  • Improve health
  • Quality downtime
For me, improving financial fitness involves paying off a particular credit card {and half of another if  doable}, improving my credit score, lowering my D/I ratio, building/maintaining my savings, and being more conscientious about how I spend my money. 

Improving my health is something that I feel should always be on a goal/resolution list. I happened to see a commercial the other day that caught my ear. I think it was a retirement commercial {I could be totally wrong} and it was talking about how we are given one life. One set of lungs, one set of teeth, etc. If you want things to make it to 60..75...85... then they need to be cared for. That means continuing to schedule and attend personal training sessions and eating mindfully.  

Downtime is something I think I excel at. I'm great about taking vacations, enjoying my weekends {both doing something and nothing}, and taking "just because" days off. What I mean by quality downtime is that I want to blog more, read more, journal more, travel more.... be more. This also entails getting rid of things that no long serve me - things that have started to feel like an obligation instead of something that brings me joy or happiness. 

I'm really excited about these goals as they are not only goals but priorities and lifestyle changes. And seeing as how for the past year I have been complaint free, I'm more than happy to keep it going! 

January 15, 2018

How I Plan to Stop Over-Goaling Myself

With the new year comes new goals and though I have no shortage of things I want to accomplish in the coming months/year, I am taking a new tact in how I address them.

While sitting with my nutritionist recently she piggybacked off something I said and made the comment that I "over-goal" myself. I immediately recognized that she was right {loved the word} and then as I thought about it more continued to have an a-ha moment.

Photo by Ariel Lustre on Unsplash

Basically, I set so many goal and plans in motion that I'm intrinsically setting myself up to fail because there's no way I'm going to be able to meet every goal. Seeing as how I have some pretty major ones this year I want to be sure that I'm on track and will actually met them as opposed to making excuses. Basically, I'm committing.

1| Keeping the goals per month at a minimum

This is a true case of "less is more". I don't want to over-extend myself by making a laundry list of things to accomplish. This automatically takes away from the quality of the goals and distracts me.

2| Choose goals that are S.M.A.R.T.

This isn't something I typically do. Or I do, but they're usually only specific. Right now, I know what a few of my major goals are {paying off credit cards; improving credit score; getting a new lease...} and while they have S.M.A.R.T. aspects I want to hone in on them so I know in mid-July that I am still on target to hit my goals.

3| Stay Committed

For me, this is by far the most challenging part. It's very easy to mentally set goals but not adhere to them. To avoid this I'm going to write out the major goals I have for this year and then break them down into steps which I can work on each month. This ensures that they stay on my mind and that I'm continuously working towards meeting them.

I'm really glad that she threw out the word "over-goaled" because it made me step back and think about the goals I make and the way I approach them. I realized it wasn't working. Having a refreshed outlook is keeping me motivated and oriented to not only set true goals, but to attain them. And that's the part that matters most.

January 09, 2018

Thoughts on Things

Is everyone over winter yet? I kid. Although it's been single and negative digits here in the northeast I'm still a happy girl. Taking a "Christmas break" was the most genius thing I've done in months and I'm still swirling in the afterglow. 

Today, I'm sharing some tidbits that have been floating around for me lately. 

| Fire and Fury a/k/a The Trump Book
I really want to read this. I'm not 100% sure it's because I have any true interest or because it's a hot button right now. I don't think it's going to reveal anything we're not already hearing - I mean, have you watched  the news lately? - but I will fully admit that my curiosity is piqued. 

| One Little Word workshop
I talked about choosing my word commit this last week. At the time I wrote that I wasn't fully committed to my word{pun not intended, just true} but since then I've realized that the word is beyond perfect and just what I needed. 

| Netflix January Releases
If you're a Netflix junkie then you've probably already seen the list of everything coming to Netflix in January. There are lots of franchises to choose from {Lethal Weapon, Bring It On, Batman, The Godfather} and some others I'll be making a point to watch. The one movie I want to watch but I'm not sure I can pony up: The Lovely Bones. I read this book a few years back and although sad, loved it. I don't know if I can see the movie though. 

| Broken Images
In an effort to clean up my blog, I started scrolling through all posts to minimize the amount of tags I have. I know it's meaningless but it truly annoys me having 20+ tags. I want 10 tops and ONLY 10. Anyway, while downsizing I started noticing that a lot of my old posts - and I mean a LOT - were missing all the images. Naturally I have no idea what the image was since the bulk of the posts are pre-2015. Although they're buried and most certainly are never even read, it bugs me and I've taken to deleting anything that isn't deemed substantial {ie: confessions, lists, fluff}. It's going to be time consuming {like, all year probably} but I know I'll feel better when it's done.

I feel a big change coming. I'm not sure what it is or what it means, but I feel it and I'm excited by it. I've always enjoyed and respected change. I find it to be necessary even when I don't know what it is or what the outcome will be.

What's been on your mind lately? 

January 04, 2018

Committing in 2018

Dear 2018,

Although I am not the type of person to get all worked up, or nostalgic, over a new year arriving, I do, as usual, have goals and plans for the next 12 months. 

Last year, I found I had a "word of the year" completely by accident. The things I wanted to do, the choices I was making, they were all culminating around one word: LESS. I wanted to buy less, complain less, own less.... it was all about downsizing and doing things from a minimal place that worked for me. 

I loved my word. I embodied it and lived it throughout the year. Especially in my winter break where I cleaned and purged from every room of the house. It felt amazing!

And because that feeling, that mindset is still with me - living minimally - it was hard to release the word and {purposefully} find a new one.

It took me three days but I decided on a word that I knew deep-down was perfect. 2018's word is


As I thought about this word and rolled it around my mouth and brain it became more and more fitting. I don't consider myself a commitment-phobe, but there are definitely things I have great intentions for but usually fall by the wayside almost immediately. I have a terrible habit of making plans only to hope they get cancelled. Or I have great intentions to do fitness or betterment things and then flake out on myself. 

So this year I'm choosing to commit. To myself. To my plans. To my intentions. Whatever they may be. 

To help keep me motivated I enrolled in the One Little Word class by Ali Edwards. 

This workshop is not complicated and it’s not time-consuming. Once per month you will be invited to check back into the classroom for a new creative prompt to help you make your word more visible in your life. Creative prompts generally fall into the categories of writing, photography or collage. It’s simply a way we can come together to share our experience with our words throughout the course of the year.

I'm super excited to dive in and see what this year, and my word, have in store for me. 

It's only just the beginning....